Being sweet to a guy is not as easy as it sounds. In fact, what seems like a simple gesture can actually have a much deeper meaning and effect. It is not just about treating him with chocolates and kindness, or cooking dinner for him under the guise of making him feel welcome in your home, it’s also about being vulnerable and giving him something that he truly deserves. If you’ve just started dating or already have a boyfriend, then you are on your way to understanding the intricacies of the male species.
If you want your guy to notice you as more than just his partner in crime, then it’s time you stepped up your game. We know that at first thought it might seem like being sweet to a guy is all well and good, but how exactly do you go about doing that while remaining adorable at the same time? We all know that there is no perfect person, and mistakes will be made, however by the time you finish reading this article you will have built a healthy relationship, while also making your boyfriend, or date, feel loved.
Genuinely be yourself when trying to impress your boyfriend
One of the biggest things you want to avoid when you’re trying to be sweet is approaching him with an act. You don’t want to go about being sweet in a way that makes your boyfriend feel like you have ulterior motives for doing so. What does this mean? It means you should avoid approaching him like a pushy salesperson. Many women think that pressing their guy to answer all questions is helpful, but it actually may have a reverse effect. Instead, be yourself, be vulnerable and start off with little things to make a guy feel appreciated. It might sound like an easy task, but this is where many get stuck on their journey to a guy’s heart.
A great way to demonstrate your vulnerability without seeming pushy is by asking questions that make him feel good about himself. They also create an opportunity for him to share something personal with you, which can help create a stronger connection between the two of you.This doesn’t have to be anything overly deep or intellectual—just something as simple as:
- What are some of your proudest achievements?
- What are some things you’re passionate about?
- What would you say is your best quality?
- What’s your favorite thing about yourself?
- What are the things you will not tolerate in a relationship?
- What are you most proud of?
- What do you like to do for fun?
- What are your favorite foods?
- What are the qualities you look for in a partner?
These types of questions are sure to make him trust you a little more while allowing him to feel special. It also shows you are focused on him, and in what he has to say, as well as what he likes. It’s okay to add a little playfulness when you ask questions or have something cute things to say, but remember the real objective here is to ask genuine questions about his character, future, outlook on life or relationship perspective.
Show your appreciation to melt his heart
There’s no doubt about it, guys love to feel appreciated. If you’re already in a relationship, then giving your boyfriend a gift that shows how much you appreciate who he is, is not only a great way to show him how sweet you are but also a way to draw him closer to you. It’s not about the price tag of the gift. Whether it be an item from his favorite sports team or something from his favorite movie series, the gesture will speak volumes about how much you think about him. He might not say anything in return, but that won’t stop him from feeling the love!
When he feels noticed and loved by you, he will have a desire to continue to be around you. Here are some easy tips on how to show your guy appreciation:
1. Be the cute girl that you are and flirt.
Let him know that you are thinking about him by sending a sexy or flirty message, or even just a simple “I love you” text. A man really likes when you are texting him with things that make him laugh or things that make him smile when he thinks of you.
2. Compliment him with sweet nothings.
Make it a point to compliment your man regularly on things big and small. Make it a point to say to your boyfriend how much you appreciate his hard work or simply letting him know that you think he looks great, a genuine compliment will always make him feel happy and appreciated. Men love to hear compliments just as much as women do. If you really want to impress him, whisper sweet nothings gently in his ear. This can be something as simple as “I find you very attractive” or “You make me feel so beautiful“.
3. Show enthusiasm in his hobbies and interests.
Another great choice to make your man feel important is to show interest in his hobbies and interests. Ask him about his day, what he’s been up to, and really listen when he talks. This will let him know that you care about the things that are important to him and that you value his opinions and thoughts.
4. Spend quality time together.
One of the best ways to make your man feel important is to spend quality time together. Make sure to schedule regular “date nights” or just carve out some time during the week when you can focus on each other without any distractions. This will let your man know that he is a priority in your life and that you love him. The best way to show your man that you love him is by telling him and showing him through your actions. Let him know that he is the most important person in your life and that you would do anything for him. Show your man how much you care about him by being there for him when he needs you.
Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want
Everyone knows that when you’re dating or in a relationship, things can get a little awkward, and it can be hard to express your feelings with the opposite sex. It is especially difficult to know when you are about to cross that line between being sweet and being needy. If you want to avoid this, then don’t overthink what you are about to say, instead, just ask for what you want. A few simple suggestions are:
- Can I have your number?
- Can we meet for coffee?
- Can I take you out for dinner?
- I would love to get to know you better. Can I buy you a drink?
- Do you have plans tonight?
- A movie sounds like a good idea; do you want to come over and watch it with me?
If your date says no, and doesn’t have a great excuse, then it’s obvious he doesn’t want to spend time with you, and you know exactly where this will end. But if he says yes, then he is giving you a signal that he believes the two of you will have a good time together. This will give him the reassurance you are interested as well as encourage him to open up to you. It’s also important if you are having this conversation face-to-face, that you maintain eye contact to watch for queues and vibes along the way.
Be spontaneous with sweet things or gestures
When it comes to being sweet to a man, the most important thing that you can do is be spontaneous. Realistically speaking, how often does a guy receive flowers from his girlfriend? Answer, not too often. So before you go and send your loved one flowers, try to understand his view on it first. Many men with a feminine quality may find this to be an attractive gesture, while masculine men will find it a little off-putting. If he likes flowers, then it’s cause for celebration!
You don’t have to wait for a special celebration to show your boyfriend how much you care. Sometimes the best way to show your love is with a spontaneous act of sweetness. Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- Send him a text message telling him how much you love him, and why.
- Make him breakfast in bed.
- Give him a big hug and tell him how happy you are to be with him.
- Take him on a romantic, spontaneous date, just the two of you.
- Write him a heartfelt letter expressing your love for him.
- Surprise him with tickets to his favorite band’s concert.
On top of spending time with him, create something special together. If he loves outdoor activities, plan an outdoor date and make sure you both bring your sense of adventure. Take this time to bond and learn more about each other. There are lots of ways you can make your relationship better by being creative and thoughtful—just make sure that you let yourself go.
Men love a little sweetness from their womenfolk and if you want it to last then try being sweet once in a while!
Help out around the house
Most women usually take care of the housework and cooking while men are usually more interested in sports, beer, TV, and video games. In today’s culture, many women often find themselves working and doing the same things as men, so while the traditional roles have shifted to an equal playing field, you shouldn’t shy away from this gesture. In fact, if you want to be sweet to a man, then all you have to do is help out around the house once in a while. Let’s face it: men are not the best at cleaning, cooking or helping wash a load of clothes, so when you do it, they look for other “honey-do’s” to show you appreciation.
If your man is struggling with something at home (like cooking) then ask if he needs some help from time to time. This way he can get better at whatever it is that he’s struggling with, and you can feel like you’re helping him out by doing these tasks. If your man says no and insists on doing everything on his own, then respect that decision but don’t hesitate to approach him about something else now and again when he might need some assistance. When you offer your support, it will put him in a good mood.
Find activities and hobbies you enjoy together
Finding activities and hobbies that you enjoy together is a great way to show him that you care about him. That’s because a guy might not always be the best at expressing his feelings, so when a girl does something for him, it shows that she cares about him.
If he loves watching football, and you don’t, then make it your mission to watch football with him now and then. If you really want to wow him in a cute way, dress like a cheerleader and have some fun with it! You could bring him a platter of his favorite food and drinks, while dressed to impress. He will definitely pay attention to you and could take your relationship to the next level. If his men-friends are there, then either do this with tact and style or not at all. Your goal is to be cute and sexy, not create jealousy.
If he likes going out to eat, but you hate being around large groups of people, then take him out on dates at restaurants where they serve smaller portions of food. Or if he loves cooking in the kitchen with you, take advantage of this as this is how real couples enjoy some of the best memories. Wait until he makes a mistake such as adding too much salt or sweetness to the dish. It’s these moments that you can tell him how much you enjoyed it while making a sour, cute and big smile on your face. Just keep it fun and sweet; he will love it that you are honest and playful!
That said, remember that there are different ways to show your guy how much you love him—you don’t need to give up anything just to make subtle changes for him to notice. Let it happen naturally, and your partnership will grow beyond your expectations.
Conclusion
A guy doesn’t want you to change who you are; he just wants you to be sweet to him. That doesn’t mean you have to put your guard down or take a backseat in the relationship. It means you just need to learn how to be sweet and show your appreciation while also being yourself!
FAQs
What is the difference between being sweet and being nice?
The difference between being sweet and being nice is that being sweet is an act that accompanies compassion, thoughtfulness and tenderness while being nice is a behavioral trait that can be exhibited with acts of kindness to everyone, not just someone you are interested in learning more about.
Examples of being sweet include:
- Taking the time to understand what the other person needs and giving them exactly that.
- Showing your care and understanding by prioritizing the needs of your partner before your own.
- Listening to their problems and giving them the space to work through them at their own pace.
- Putting the needs of others ahead of your own, even if it means missing out on something yourself.
- Doing all those things without being overly selfish.
Examples of being nice include:
- Smiling at others.
- Holding the door open for someone.
- Saying please and thank you.
- Offering simple compliments.
- Lending a helping hand.
What are the benefits of being sweet to a guy?
Being sweet to a guy can be one of the most difficult things to do, but it is also one of the most important things you can do. Being sweet to a guy means connecting with him on an emotional level, letting him know that you care about him and that you want to be around him. It also means that you are interested in getting to know him better and that you are interested in building a relationship with him.
Additionally, being sweet to a guy will make him more likely to open up and share his emotions with you, which is something he might not do if he feels uncomfortable around you. Connecting on an emotional level with a guy will make the relationship between both of you much stronger and more stable over time.
How can you be sweet to a guy without coming across as too needy?
The best way to be sweet to a guy is to listen to him. Being sensitive and thoughtful is an amazing quality that men love, so don’t be afraid to give him the attention he needs. Don’t just listen to him only, take the initiative and ask questions too, as this shows that you’re truly interested in mind. Showing that you care opens the door for him to share his thoughts and feelings with you. When you’re together, engage in fun activities together, such as going for walks, taking a coffee together or just watching TV in the same room.
Don’t be clingy and make sure to leave room for other conversations. Also, don’t disappear after one conversation either! Always stay present in his life and be willing to listen so that he can open up and share things with you. If you are always requiring his attention without giving him some room to do his own thing, he may find you too needy. If that happens, he will start to distance himself from you to regain his masculinity.
